CMR Canada  Employee and Family Assistance Programs 
Serving Canadians for 21 Years
 

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 Calgary - Head Office
 Camrose
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 Edson
 Grande Prairie
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 Lethbridge
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CMR Canada - Employee and Family Assistance Programs

Head Office:  Suite 600, Bow Valley Square 4, 250 - 6 Avenue SW, Calgary, Alberta   T2P3H7
Telephone (403) 263-2200  Fax (403) 256-8291  E-mail:  cmr@cmrcanada.ca

January 2001

Note: This article presents only one perspective on a body of information on the subject and is not intended to be definitive. CMR Canada recommends you seek additional perspectives on the subject.

Domestic Violence: It's Harmful to our Health

Domestic violence is an ancient problem, but it has only been about 30 years since our society has openly acknowledged the damage it does to the health and well-being of the victim, the family, and the community as a whole.

Victims of domestic violence are not just at increased risk of physical injuries. They also become ill more often than average. Because they live with fear and uncertainty, battered women are more likely to suffer from stress-related problems such as insomnia, high blood pressure, bowel and stomach disorders, chronic pain, headaches, anxiety, and depression services than women who are not abused. Over all, they make greater use of the health care system.

The same is true of children who live with domestic violence. They suffer from more physical and emotional health problems than children who are not abused. And even if they are not abused themselves, children who witness abuse against their mothers suffer the same kinds of physical and emotional problems as abused children. Children from violent homes rarely feel safe, and that takes a huge toll on their well-being.

Abusers tend to be very controlling, unpredictable, and easily angered. Thus, family members are forced to become very focused on the abuser, maintaining constant vigilance in order to avoid setting him or her off. These families expend so much energy trying to maintain calm in the household that they have little left to deal effectively with important health issues. For example, a mother who is battered may be so traumatized that she will have extreme difficulty preparing nutritious meals or keeping track of dental appointments. Haunted by shame and fear, these families often do not reach out. As a result, they have less access to the community resources that can help them.

Domestic violence puts a huge strain on families and on our health care system. One study estimates the health costs of domestic violence in Canada to be almost $1.5 billion per year. The number of women treated in emergency rooms for injuries resulting from battering is more than the number of women treated for non-marital rapes, muggings, and traffic accidents combined.

WHAT CAN BE DONE?

If you are being abused you are not to blame, and you are not alone. Many agencies can provide confidential help.

If you feel you are ready to reach out, please call one of the numbers listed here:

bulletThe Calgary Women's Emergency Shelter  (403)-234-7233
bulletChild Abuse Hotline 1-800-387-5437
bulletCalgary Police Service 403-263-1234
bulletEdmonton Police Service 780-421-3333
bulletThe Support Network - Edmonton 780-482-4357
bulletEdmonton Women's Shelter 780-479-0058

If you realize that you are being abusive:

bulletBy recognizing that your behaviour is abusive, you have taken the first step toward change.
bulletTake responsibility for your choices and get help in learning non-abusive ways to deal with stress and resolve conflict.
bulletContact - The Men's Domestic Conflict Help Line 403-266-4357

If someone you love is being abused:

bulletOffer support and avoid judgments. This will be easier if you become informed about the issue. For example, it is not true that victims provoke abuse. Abuse is about control, and the abuser is always responsible for his or her behaviour. Discussing options is usually more helpful than giving advice.
To help prevent abuse in the community
bulletBecome informed and help debunk the myths around family violence,
bulletTell others if their language is abusive or oppressive.
bulletLearn about peaceful conflict resolution.
bulletExamine your own attitudes on abuse and violence. For example, do you watch television programs that use abusive humour or portray violence as entertainment?
bulletSupport the Turn Off the Violence campaign, which encourages families to turn off music, TV shows, and video games that are violent or put others down.
bulletThe campaign also encourages us to help people who are bullied, harassed, or teased.
bulletRemember that healthy lives - and healthy communities - are free from violence and abuse.
Link: Understanding Abusive Relationships

Edited by CMR Canada
Reference: Grace Women's Health Resource - Elizabeth Miles, MSc, CPsych

Light Bulbs


Two guys are sweeping in a wharehouse and suddenly one guy starts climbing up the side of the wall and when he gets to the top starts shouting "I'm a light bulb". The manager comes in and sees this and tells him to get down and get back to work.
After 20 minutes the same guy does the same act. The manager this time warns him that if he does it again he will be fired
and to stop it. 20 minutes later he is up there again, the manager says "thats it your fired, get out of here". The man climbs down
from the ceiling and starts to walk out and the other man starts out after him. The manager asks the second man where he
thinks he is going and the man says "I'm not working in the dark."

Note: This article presents only one perspective on a body of information on the subject and is not intended to be definitive. CMR Canada recommends you seek additional perspectives on the subject.

 

For more information on this and other subjects go to Interventions Archive.  The EFAP assists you and your family resolve personal problems and maintain healthy and productive lives. 

Counselling Services Provided

Aging Parents Bereavement Career Issues
Emotional Problems Family Problems Harassment
Health Concerns Marriage Preparation Marital Problems
Physical or Sexual Abuse Relationship Issues Single Parenting
Stress Substance Abuse Addictions
Trauma    

 How do I arrange for counselling and/or get more information?
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Simply phone CMR Canada at 403-263-2200 in Calgary, or 1-800-567-9953 from elsewhere.

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Or, click on Request for Service.

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Or, e-mail CMR Canada.  

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All arrangements will be made for you.

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Permission is not needed to use the EFAP.  It is voluntary and strictly confidential. 

Your Confidentiality is Guaranteed

CMR Canada

PROFILE

CMR Canada, a national EFAP management firm founded in Alberta in 1990, delivers programs and services that enhance the health and performance capability of individuals and organizations.  The firm delivers services to individuals plus their families in organizations located throughout Alberta - Municipal Governments, Hospitals, Unions,  Universities, and Corporations and the General Public.

Interventions, the EFAP Journal of CMR Canada, is available to clients without cost.  

CMR's organization is simple, efficient, and highly effective leaving the majority of resources, financial and human, to provide service to clients and their families. The firm has extensive experience in designing, implementing, resourcing, evaluating, and managing  Assistance Programs.

CMR has an unlimited supply of qualified professionals to engage as needed. Professionals are partnered or on contract to CMR. Included are Psychologists, Registered Social Workers, Family Therapists, Crisis Counsellors,  Career Counsellors, and Certified Human Resource Professionals.

Working principles:  keep the business small; deliver extraordinary personal service; keep the costs low.  This highly efficient and effective business model allows CMR to deliver high quality programs and services at lower cost with increased accountability - and select the most experienced and capable professionals. 

To request more information or a counsellor, click on Request for Service. 

CMR Canada - Employee and Family Assistance Programs

Head Office
Suite 3500, Bow Valley Square 2
205 - 5 Avenue SW
Calgary, Alberta T2P2V7
Telephone (403)263-2200 in Calgary, or
1-800-567-9953 from elsewhere
Fax (403)256-8291
E-Mail:  CMR Canada
Alberta Locations

Athabasca,  Barrhead, Calgary,  Camrose,  Drayton Valley,  Edmonton,  Edson,  Fort McMurray,  High Prairie,  Hinton,  Jasper,  Grande Prairie,  Lac La Biche,  Lethbridge,  Lloydminster, Medicine Hat,  Peace River, Pincher Creek,  Red Deer,  St. Paul , Wainwright